I sense it is time for us to be okay with the feeling of "being alone", regardless of our relationship status.
Maybe this is the key to our wholeness?
From an early age we want, and need, to be loved by our mother, father and others, believing this is fundamental to our survival and to validate our worth.
With this belief system running, we will "sell our souls" to be "loved by another" and if they stop "loving us" and seperate, we push the hurt down and get on with finding another, to give us the security we "think" we need, to earn our existence.
This can be a pattern for our whole life, always looking outside ourselves to be loved, whether it be parents, partners, children or friends.
This external "mind" search for love stops and blocks the "value" of our natural beingness and interconnectedness with all that is.
We mould ourselves to be what others want us to be, then "blame" them if they reject us. Alternatively, we get so "moulded" to another's needs, we totally lose ourselves in the relationship, then "shut down" the truth and "value" of self, to have our "needs" met. We perpetuate the feeling of worthlessness and become a "victim" to life.
It is through awareness and feeling this pattern within, even if it is uncomfortable to face our fears, to somewhere trust in the divine process. If we can keep travelling into the feeling of being "alone" and sit with the nothingness, it gives "space" for the truth to arise.... that we are never alone, there is always a greater presence.
Feeling this helps us to stabilise and centre back to our natural, original core of unconditonal love, and to let this authenticity be our "North Star" guidance.
This aligns our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wholesomeness and from there all relationships have the potential to be free of needs. Others may not like our movement, however, only when we are true to self, can we truly be "true" for another...is this True Love?
ALONE is really AL ONE!
Love Jilly
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